Sandra can see it why cant motherboard???

[kdja]

Hi
I need help really bad.
1st what i think happened then the system the begging and tears .
I installed a new Combo drive(ricoh mp920a) on wednesday when i turned on the p.c i had no graphic card fixed that then my memory was only showing as 32mb SDRAM (i had got 256mb SDRAM for 3 months no problems)i thought i killed the memory so i got 256 more same prob only saw it as 32mb .So now i have 512mb SDRAM in my p.c and it shows as 64mb.
The system
ECS K7VZA mobo KT133/686B 100mhz fsb
512mb SDRAm p133 (really there is )
Western D 40 GIG drive Primary 1
Fujitsu 4 gig HDD Secondary 1(disconnected now)
Ricoh MP9200A primary 2
Relisys 16x DVD rom secondary 2 (disconnnected now)
DV card (disconnected now)
TNT2 32bit Graphics
56k Dial up modem
Creative PCi 512 sound
I have tried all the following upgrading downgrading BIOS ,Firmware for Ricoh drive.
changing Bios settings .
Cleaning memory
testing Memory in another p.c (it woorks)
Contacting ECS ha ha ha h aha ha that was funny .
I was all out of ideas so i ran SISofts Sandra just to see .
And it saw my memory eactly right 256 in each slot(memory identify) but in the Mainboard it said i had only 32 in each slot .
So now i am convinced i can make the mobo see the memory but i dont know how .
Now the tears please help if anybody has any clue or idea or has seen this before please relpy.
i am about to try the memory enabler program hoping that might make the mobo see it.
thanks and rgds to anyone who can help .
Anthony Byrne

[userserver]

when you get into windows and look at system properties, what does windows report as far as memory?