Looking for advice/suggestions

[richamies]

OK well I guess I'm pretty much the happiest guy on this planet right now. Taking a VERY good look at moving over to live with and be with this girl, uproot everything, sell the pc's and EVERYTHING. No going back. I'm not gonna ask a stoopid question like "How do you know when it is worth doing it". I already know the answer to that and want to do it.

Someone throw some much needed advice and/or moral support this way as it's looking very hard at the moment.



I can't explain to you all just how good I feel now. PC's/jobs/family/money are all meaningless. Family think I'm jumping in too far too fast but it feels right. Completely.

Nothing has ever felt so right as when I hold her, or talk to her, or walk with her. Someone say something

[jad1097]

If it feels right then go with your heart Rich. But at least keep one PC.

When I asked my girlfriend(now wife) if she wanted to move I could not even finnish saying where and she said when.


My family hated my wife and now they love her, except the step mom and who cares what she thinks.
Besides it would save you tons money so you could be here again .

The point is do what you feel is right.

[richamies]

Everything has felt right so far. From the look in her eyes to the feel of her hand. I think my family are beginning to flip but it is meaningless, I will do it regardless of their opinions or lack of support. They can either be a part of my life or not, it is up to them.

Both PC's will have to go I think, every penny has to count right now as I don't know how long it will take to find a job down there.

Anyone want a nice celeron 300a or a K6-II 400? Both will come with some sort of warranty, depending on the spec and how clocked you'd like them .

Should all this scare me so much? Although it does scare me enormously, I sleep better now than I have done for months but it still isn't enough really.

All this is teasing my mind. Life doesn't seem to be too fair on a whole. Does it get better?

[tonym]

Rich,

I remember a quote (not exactly, but you'll get the point) from a movie with Steve Martin (methinks "Father of the Bride") where an elderly woman gave him this this advice:

"...Life is like an amusement park. Some people like to ride the carousel, going round and round and round. I, however, prefer the ROLLER COASTER, with all its ups and downs!..."

My advice...hop off the **** carosel and grab a hold of the roller coaster car. Hold on tight but the ride will be fun and you will NEVER regret it!

Best of luck and:

"May you have a long, happy, healthy, and prosperous life filled with family, fun and love, and may your fondest dream never exceed your grasp."

Tony

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[Richard_Cranium72]

Nothing feels as right as the first weeks/days of new Love. The emotional upheaval is so tremendous that ones who have never experienced it haven't the slightest clue of the magnitude. I for one support you in this decision, just keep in touch with the family even more than you have before.. This is very important, the future is uncertain at best, enjoy life to it's fullest..Don't be like so many others with regrets that you didn't TRY something in particular that you wanted desperately. When I met my wife no one liked the idea much either, but our attraction was so intense that nothing could pry us apart... We never spent a day apart for four years,, till I lost some sanity.. and.. well , another time.. Point is, go with your heart and observe your partner with your eyes also and make very sure that she is in as deep as yourself.. remember no one is perfect. Also mark the calendar on the day, you know the one,, the every 28 day thing.. send flowers or a card or just something nice to reassure that you're sincere.. I KNOW what you're feelling,, ain't it great ??? Plant a big one on the back of her neck for the ole corvette doctor,, take care,, keep in touch,, DrVette

[BBA]

Richard...One day you will look back and remember this message...and know it!

Seems the biggest thing about a lasting relationship is one in which you don't have to make concessions, but everything is agreed on. Small compromises work sometimes.

If she has anything against internet usage, well, thats a bad sign because you seem to be changing your habits to please her. That does not work....ever! It is only a temporary change one will make out of lust, and will cause difficulty later.

One word of advice...if you have to change to be with her...dump her!

[jealousy]
Now, if only I could find a girl who likes all the stuff I like! [/jealousy]

Ok, now, with all the cynical stuff said, GOOD LUCK!!

[richamies]

Computers are going because of the need to free up some cash, not for any other reason. She uses the internet and spends quite an amount of time on here, all because of me It was and is my decision to sell the kit, no pressure or even suggestions from her. I keep my stereo though so she will have very sore ears from listening to my appalling range of music

[alpha]

Rich, glad to hear you're happy. Hope you don't regret selling the machines. Even though you'll be machineless, visit the board when you can. *Rich is dragged kicking and screaming away from his K6-2*

Seriously, how much do you want for the 300A? And how much for the board??

If I can get cash, the 400 might be an option...

email me....

[CMonster]

Alas - *true love is like the flower; get it while it's budding and hold on through the blossom - do not forsake her when she wilts and the petals fall to the ground - in time the petals themselves nourish a new flower springing up from the barren earth of your heart. ..

**that's an original BTW.

..on the material plane it cannot last .. but the "ride" is why you are here..embrace the passion.. embrace it! You do not know how blessed you are to find this one... perhaps you will carry this back into eternity.

one last caution... don't burn your bridges -
you may need (not want) to cross back over them...

GP

[richamies]

CMonster -
"true love is like the flower; get it while it's budding and hold on through the blossom"

I think that could be the nicest way anyone has ever described something to me before.

"You do not know how blessed you are to find this one... perhaps you will carry this back into eternity."

I completely understand how blessed I am to have found her, and can only hope that we ride into eternity together.

Man, thats gotta be the sweetest and cutest thing I've ever heard a man say before <sniff>.

Thanks you guys. Nice to see some understanding and caring people out there.

[Dave_H]

Rich
I was pleased to see your name listed again, it's been a while. I have waiting for you to check in and give us an update, seems like everything has been going very well indeed.

I was in a similar situation as you Rich.
I thought I knew what love was, but I was wrong. I was wrong because I found the real thing only 5 years ago. I met the girl of my dreams and I absolutly flipped head over heals for her. Maybe there really is something about fate, or destiny. We have been happily married since that time and I consider myself so lucky to have found her and so glad I did what I did to get her and keep her. Every day for me is still a gift.

As for you buddy, Why do you ask when you already know the answer?

Wishing you the best Rich. Good luck
Dave
p.s. keep one computer

[Ed_S]

Rich, you got to go with your feelings here.

But BBA is dead right about changing to please your mate - the change won't last even if the relationship lives forever.

Food for thought about the 'puters. - The amount they bring is a drop in the bucket when starting a new life. It will dissapear into household goods without a trace, and you BOTH loose something.

I don't mean just losing a hobby, either. You may not believe it now, but you'll see - everyone needs a place to get away from their mate occasionally. Having it gives you a place to go, and gives HER a place to send YOU!
(BTW, you'll be starting to need this around the 2nd week)

Been married 17 yrs now, and I guarantee that if I didn't have "getaway" activities, it would have ended long ago.

Ed

[socalgal]

All the advice above is great..

I will just add to love passionately with your heart, but don't forget to think with your brain! (IOW, don't let love blind you, and not changing to suit another is good advice. One falls in love with someone the way they are, and then wants to change them, I don't understand that one?..)

You're very lucky to have found it Richamies and I wish you all the luck and best wishes in the world!

If you are sure without a doubt within your own heart and head, then go for it whatever you really feel is right for you!

Anyway, my $0.02......



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[narayan]

Rich, it sounds like you are in some sort of shock (in a good sense . I hope that one day I will have someone that is as special to me as she is to you.

[richamies]

Hey! I have no doubts in my mind whatsoever, but sometimes I need a little reassurance from those with such good judgement. The computer is going because :-

1. I need t osupport us both for a while, and need some money to start that off.

2. To keep the PC would mean a phone line, and therefore phone bills.

She has not and will not change me, I can be rather strong willed when I need to be. And I want to change nothing about her, apart from the distance between us and to help ease the problems she is stuck in the middle of right now.

As I said in my first post, I'm just here to get a touch of moral support and a little reassurance as it's getting a bit hard to find here, with my family. So I turned to my 'second' family.

But thanks for the (mostly) positive thoughts from you guys! It means a lot.