Hello Everyone

[Nathan]

The link below will explain my absence from this great board. We didn't think she would last this long. I hope you don't mind me posting another link to a tech support site like this one. I mean no disrespect in doing so.

http://www.pchelponline.com/forum/index.cgi?read=40655

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[eagle1]

Wow man.! I'm sorry to hear that.! My aunt had pancreatic cancer and I can tell you that it is hard having someone so close and that you know that you can't do something about it..!! It sucks but what can I say... it's LIFE.!

[socalgal]

Nathan, you've been around here a long time and have given alot of help to us. I remember when you had your help site with listed errors and such that was such a great resource for many of us.

I can only offer inadequate words but my most heartfelt, sincere best wishes and my prayers for you and your wife during what must be an exceedingly difficult time.

[Richard_Cranium72]

Our Pal Nathan was/is one of the founding fathers of the " Old Wise Ones "

He, Target, Apostle-83, BFlurie, AuraEdge, KillerBug, daveleau and many others were and still are great members who have shared their time and efforts to assist those with lesser knowlege.

As SOCAL said, Nathan's help site was a great benefit to us all, it without a doubt was time consuming and tedious to assemble.

Given this, Nathan needs our help now.

A few momements of quiet meditation and thoughts of Nathan and his family will assist in this most traumatic of times.

Whatever religion you happen to profess is of no consequence, take a little bit of time to think of this family. Please

most sincerely
DrVette

[BFlurie]

Sorry for you, Nathan. My ex-wife lost all 3 men in her family from illness & accident over just a few years. Her brothers were only about 30 yrs old. http://www.sysopt.com/forum/frown.gif

[skywalker[TSG]]

im sorry for you nathan


my mother had cancer a few years ago
altought not fatal it was a scary experience

also dont forget to take good care of your 12year old daughter during these most traumatic of times.i know from first hand expericene that she needs all the love and support that you and your wife can give her

if there is anything i can do...

[BBA]

Nathan, my prayers are with you and yours.

[Warthog]

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[Nathan]

A correction on my daughters age. She's 8. With everything that's going on, I may have given John the wrong age by accident. BTW, no apologies necessary either on that.

I've been doing this tech support thing since I think "95? You know, many people think the internet is a bunch of nameless people hiding behind false names and identities. Well that may be true, but there are places where special people help one another and genuinely care. This is one of those few places.

**tears** I'm extremely humbled by all you sharing your kind words of love, caring, and offering your support. I wish I could write more, but it's hard seeing the screen through the tears of apppreciation I have for everyone because of the warmth you all have given me here.... **tears**

"Life is about relationships and the experiences you have within them"

"Life is a journey, enjoy the detours"

[surrealchereal]

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[voogru]

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[nygel3]

I can't say I know how you feel but I lost my wife 17 years ago when our son had just turned 5. My heart is out there for you Nathan. Take care of yourself and don't hold your feelings inside.

Never did I think I needed to talk about my problems to anybody. I thought I could handle it and I did think I was doing just fine for almost a year until reality set in with a nervous breakdown. I was working as a heavy equipment mechanic at the time. One afternoon, suddenly with no apparent reason, I started to get the shakes which rapidly increased to the point that I couldn't hold a wrench well enough to use it. I had to leave work to see my doctor. My doctor explained it to me by simply saying that he expected to see me a lot sooner. He had told me, just after losing my wife, to seek councelling concerning my loss. I didn't think that "I" needed any form of councelling. No not me, I let things go to the point that it took medication to get my nervous system back to normal. If I had been willing to listen, the doctors advise would have served me well but my mistake cost me almost an entire year getting sicker (depression) and another ten monthes to get back to health.
I don't mean to tell you what to do; I'm not where you are now. I don't know what I can do, but I feel my heart again and I care...

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[Hellmund]

Sorry for the Hard-times you must now be facing. I wish the best for you and your family http://www.sysopt.com/forum/frown.gif

[Nathan]

Well it's over. My wife is now in heaven. I want to thank everyone for their concern and kindness in this long battle we all had with her breast cancer.

[draboo]

may she rest in peace........

[Gutter Ball]

http://www.sysopt.com/forum/frown.gif Sorry for your loss....

[BBA]

God Bless her soul.

Be strong Nathan.

[socalgal]

Oh Nathan...

My words can't express my sadness. My deepest condolences and sympathies are with you and your daughter.

I pray your pain fades quickly while your memory of her stays young forever.

[Gomer]

I am sorry to hear of what has happened Nathan. May God and our prayers help you find strength in your troubled times. Hang in there.

[Warthog]

Yeah man, hang in there.

We'll always be here for you...stop on by and say hello once in awhile http://www.sysopt.com/forum/wink.gif

Warthog

[Richard_Cranium72]

May Peace be with you.

[Bleeding Edge]

You always knew this day would come. You never had any doubt about that. Whether or not you accepted it, whether or not you wished otherwise. Remember, you didn’t lose her…. you were left behind. And we know what this implies.

There are still things to do, Nathan. There are still things you must do.

-b.e

[Mntsnow]

Nathan,

I'm so sorry you and your family had to bear this burden http://www.sysopt.com/forum/frown.gif But your statement of "she's now in heaven" gives me a sense of peace as it must be giving you and yours that comfort knowing that her mortal pain has past now and she is free of that.

Again as always if there is anything we can do for you just holler.

[Nathan]

Thanks for all your kind words again everyone. You're all a great bunch of people!!!!

I knew this day would come 2 years ago. Just didn't know when. I've been grieving about it ever since then.

[Richard_Cranium72]

I certainly am not qualified for anything, much less giving advice durnig times like this.

I/We all have had some tough times, some of us have lost mates, some of us have lost children.

Neither is easy.

Remember the steps

1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Guilt
4.Blame

I don't know if I got them all right, or even if the ones I remember are in the right order.

When dealing with the rest of the world, use caution that you don't do something or say a hurtful thing.

I hope I didn't mess this up too badly.

prayers

[Ed_S]

Nathan...I...

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*****

I've lost a lot of family over the years, and what I've found best is to just keep in mind that, no matter WHAT you're going through now, she is at rest and her suffering has ended.

Prayers & sympathy

Ed