friendship

[skywalker[TSG]]

Why does friendship mean so much when it really means nothing at all
I have known my friend David for about 15months and i have considerd him my
Best friend for some months now

I remember summer we where hangning out every f******g day
And well i thought he loved me as much as i love him (on a friendship level that is)

But today he said that i had been lying all the time about everything
I told him that i had been a friend to 110% and that i had never lied about anything
As i said this i burst into tears and i slapped him on the face
I still cant belive a word he said,i cried all the way home and im still crying
I told him to get lost
I mean if you have known somebody for almost 2years you should be able to trust him
But still he did not belive a word i said i have been totaly honest with him
Maybe i have said a couple white lies about small thing (how many girlfriends i have had and so on) but that should not matter,he have said alot of BS too

What should i do`?
Should i call him and talk to him about this or shoud i just walk away?


also we where both drunk when this argument took place
but i dont thnk this should matter
after almost 2years he should trust me
im so mad

i just want to kill myself
the thought of taking a bottle of pills
aint far away

im so f*ing mad at this guy
i thought we where friends and then just out of thin air he called me a dickhead and a moron

[This message has been edited by skywalker[TSG] (edited 03-29-2001).]

[This message has been edited by socalgal (edited 03-29-2001).]

[Warthog]

i just want to kill myself
the thought of taking a bottle of pills
aint far away

nononononononononono!!!

Whoa there fella. Take a breather.

You stated he was drunk. Alchol does a lot to people, have you talked to him since?
I think this has a lot to do with the situation.

Warthog

[Barney]

If he's really your best friend, this will go over. I have had fights with my best friend that lasted for a week and we really did fight. But after that we were best friends again. Too bad I haven't seen him since he moved half a year ago. http://www.sysopt.com/forum/frown.gif

Ronald

[skywalker[TSG]]

well we sharded a few words after the argument

and the thing that upsets me the most is the fact that he thinks that i have been lying to him all the time

man im getting so mad right now and i feel so betraid i mean i really like this guy why the f*k does he have to do something like this
!!but i wont kill myself!!

[This message has been edited by socalgal (edited 03-29-2001).]

[jad1097]

My best friend and I have rolled around in the grass more than once. Friends fight sometimes but true friends get over it. Going on twenty years now and we are still best friends. Give it some time and see what happens.

[turbo]

skywalker

I'm only new here and probably a very old man in comparison to you and many of your freinds. Maybe what I say because of my generation will not help. But I do know that a bottle of pills is a bad freind worse perhaps than the one you thought your best. It also occur's to me that your best freinds are on line at this time talk it out.

turbo http://www.sysopt.com/forum/wink.gif and lots of em!

[Barney]

My advise would be to let him and yourself cool down for a week or two and then try to talk to him again. He will probably come to you before you get the chance to go to him, unless he's very stubborn...

[wyvrn]

There will be other friends to make and people to meet. Don't let a fight ruin your outlook on life. Hey I have had many friends growing up, in high school, in college, and at work with whom I have lost contact. Sometimes they moved away, or sometimes we just split ways when our school was over. You say you will keep contact, but somehow the best intentions don't work out. But trust me, there will be other best friends to be had http://www.sysopt.com/forum/smile.gif Hang in there, and if you are really as depressed as it seems, then talk to someone. Surely you have other friends you can hang out with to keep you positive? What movie do you want to see? Call someone up right now and go see it! Get out of the house and make yourself active, you will be suprised at how fast you recover from your argument http://www.sysopt.com/forum/smile.gif

[socalgal]

"also we where both drunk when this argument took place
but i dont thnk this should matter"

It does matter. Alcohol is a mind-altering drug that changes one's personality, usually not for the better.

I truly wish you would be your own best friend and get yourself into an AA program or some type of alcohol rehab. But you won't until you can't bear the pain any longer and/or sincerely have the desire to quit. I only hope you do find that desire, someday, soon.

[daveleau]

While alcohol is not an excuse, I agree with Socal. Let things lay low for a day or so and then talk to him.

[skywalker[TSG]]

thanks for your support everyone
i means wery much to me

i talked to him this morning and he is still mad but maybe he will cool down in a day or 2 and if does not then he aint a real friend

[King_Kooba_Fantastique]

Friendship is like a relationship, the friends are sailors on troubled waters, they are hit by waves of differing intensity once in a while, over time they will learn how to overcome hardships.

I think you both need to cool down a little and then talk this over, communication is one of the most important pillars of a friendship or relationship.

I have known my best friend for about 10 years now, we grew up together, we have been through many fights and arguments, and yet we are best friends.

A friendship is not static, its dynamic, its evolving all the time, there is constant external influence, how we deal with this is the important factor.

Im sure things will get sorted out,
Good luck,
KKF.

[skywalker[TSG]]

just talked to him on the phone

and everything is cool
maybe we both overreacted or sometin

[justy]

Glad to hear, all's well.

You'll be laughing together in a few weeks looking back on this.

All the best, Justy.

[Warthog]

Great! I am really glad to hear it http://www.sysopt.com/forum/smile.gif http://www.sysopt.com/forum/smile.gif

Warthog

[dafremen]

I can't believe you slapped him on the face AND cried. Maybe it's my Irish/Italian blood, but IF I had gotten pissed off enough to slap him,(which I probably wouldn't have...just me mind you) I would have either pushed him, or punched him, not slapped him.
Maybe I'm just not in touch with my feelings enough, but I definitely wouldn't have cried about it either. As a man I've got my pride AND my dignity to think of, maybe for family I would cry, not for a friend, not over a fight, not even for my BEST friend. Maybe I'm just a cold callous @$$hole, I dunno.

I'm also glad that things worked out though man. Sometimes booze makes people do stupid things. Communication almost always fixes things back up though.

8) Daffy

[King_Kooba_Fantastique]

I truly wish you would be your own best friend and get yourself into an AA program or some type of alcohol rehab. But you won't until you can't bear the pain any longer and/or sincerely have the desire to quit. I only hope you do find that desire, someday, soon.

Maybe there is something i dont know, but he didnt say he was an alcoholic did he ??.

KKF.

[skywalker[TSG]]

daffy

there is lots of things going on in my life right now and none of them are good
when this all happend it just went over the edge

i cant belive i cried too

[[BR]Magikal]

JUST BE VERY GLAD THAT YOU HAVE A FRIEND TO FIGHT WITH. seriously. i have never really had a true best friend since high school. ia was a loner in a way. all of the friends i had were female and they always ended up wanting more than i could give so i just stopped having friends around. it really sux now that i have such a hard time getting friends since i could really use some one that i have something in comon with right now. my girl doesnt really care about anything that i care about anymore.

oh and its nice to talk on message boards but i would much rather have real life friends if you know waht i mean.

well im glad you made up. just remember, fighting and making up can be a godod thing. you learn alot about people that way.

[Hellmund]

If you wanna make friends, pick something you like, do it and you'll meet someone else with the same interest. I've been friends with my best friend for about 13 years I'd say. We met in kindergarten but we became friends when we met playing soccer for the local teams U/7's.We still hang-out and go Skirmish(Paintball, it's awesome I highly recommend it and I met some great guys and gals doing it too).