Ok, this is for you married guys. There is something that I've been wondering about for awhile - maybe you guys can explain it to me.
I've noticed that many - most - of you guys refer to your wives as "the wife". Why is this?
I don't know of one married woman who refers to her husband as "the husband".
It's always "... blahddy blah... my husband... blahdy blah... "
So, why do you call your women "the wife" and not "my wife"?
I really want to know.
Mntsnow
10-10-2000, 10:45 PM
Ok OK....
Hmmmm...I will get back to you on this after I consult with MY wife http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif ROFL (gotcha Socal!)
Truthfully after reflecting on the question I would say I usually say THE wife when it deals with matters where she TELLS/TOLD me what I should do. and I say MY wife when I'm talking about things that she didnt tell me what to do or of things that are more personal...
Sheeze made me think twice about the question! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
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socalgal
10-10-2000, 10:48 PM
hahaha. very funny, Snowman ;P
Ok, Mntsnow doesn't have a clue. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Another husband perhaps?
Edit: Ok, Looks like the Snowman has some thoughts... http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
More married guys I need to hear from... to corroborate or dispute this theory http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
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Win_98
10-10-2000, 11:01 PM
No ideas socalgal, I don't even have one. I'm single and 27. As the saying goes the older you are the harder it is to find someone, so some people just aren't as fortunate as married people like me.
Mntsnow
10-10-2000, 11:10 PM
Win_98....Think twice and then let me/us know which it is?
I'm single and 27.
or is it
...fortunate as married people like me.
Cause I'm lost now http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif
Barney
10-10-2000, 11:13 PM
No husband yet,but isn't it well known that women don't want to be referred as property?Like:this is my cow.Oh...and this is MY wife. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Or is that only when you're not married yet?
Ronald
sarcastic as ever...
jad1097
10-10-2000, 11:31 PM
I kind of have to go with what mntsnow said. I also agree with Barney because I try not to refer to her and the kids as a possession. See there is another one "THE kids".
This will be on my mind for days.
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cyclone2
10-11-2000, 12:42 AM
Well she thinks she is "the Boss" so rather than calling her "the boss" to "the guys" we call her "the wife" because we are all polite hen-pecked gentlemen and do not wish to call her by the real title of "The B!tch"
http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif JK http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
welsh wizard
10-11-2000, 03:44 AM
Well Socalgal, I don't know about calling "Her in Doors" the wife, My wife or any thing else, I do know that at her Pre Press Work place they refer to her as "DRAGON" but thats mainly because she is the Unions "Father of the Chapel" ( senior Union Rep and on the unions regional exec.)
I don't think I would call her the wife, after all when the truth out she 24 carat as far as I am concerned, after all the Cr** with my health over the last year or so, most lasses would have called it quits.
WW
skai
10-11-2000, 04:38 AM
Well SoCal maybe it's "the Wife" as distinct from "the Girlfriend" {I just hope the wife dosn't read this} LOL skai
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BFlurie
10-11-2000, 09:57 AM
The "wife" may eventually become the "ex".
Target
10-11-2000, 10:09 AM
DOH! Didn't mean to post in this thread.
Please disregard my momentary brain lapse. And the next one that is sure to come within the hour. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
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Ptrper
10-11-2000, 10:21 AM
Well, as a husband and a father, I think I understand what is going on here. All you gentlemen are too kind sometimes. If you aren't in a loving relationship with your wife, she becomes known as the old "ball and chain". Therefore we do something called "Transferrance". She then becomes an object of possession. Something dragging us down. If you aren't married, you won't be able to understand. Even those with girlfriends, you all are still going through what I refer to as the "Polite" stage. Where you're not sure how the relationship is going to turn out...
But for us married guys, when THE WIFE starts nagging, just drink a beer and take it with a grain of salt. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
socalgal
10-11-2000, 10:36 AM
lol! mgordon, you get the Academy Award for Best Screenplay <g> and Original Comedy Composition http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
My thought on this is, I would prefer to be called "my wife", because it seems to be more personal, more relational. Then again I'm probably just a hopeless <g> romantic.
To me, "the wife" makes 'wife' sound like an object - a mere noun after 'the'; whereas 'wife' after 'my' denotes a certain meaning/sense of belonging, a type of possessiveness (no, I don't mean possessiveness as in the character flaw http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif )
jad - Isn't it a form of possession though? Not that it's 'owning' one another, but more of a "you belong to me" as in romantic/sexual sense. Isn't it the same type of symbolism as wedding rings? As for the kids, they are 'your' kids, but for some reason I can see where saying "the kids" is more common/less subject to interpretation (for me) - perhaps because I hear women saying "the kids" often.
Does it depend on the type of conversation - or to whom the audience is? Or, maybe depending on one's mood or a barometer of the state of the relationship?
Welsh, you have a jewel of a wife, and it's because she loves you, and I'm sure she feels she's as lucky as you feel. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Quite interested to hear more from you guys, and to the married women, too, what do you think?
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NoCtrl
10-11-2000, 10:41 AM
Most of the time I introduce my better half as my first wife, and then she reminds that she's also my last . . . if I care to keep on living.
Toadman
10-11-2000, 11:07 AM
Sometimes you hear of women referring to their hubbies as "the ol' man", though rarely in public. Sometimes I think we are referred to possessively as "my husband" as though we are an accessory that complements their lives, especially in woman-to-woman talk.(MY dog, MY therapist, MY broker). Men don't really think of women as an accessory as much as being a puzzle piece that completes them. Allow me:
Both sexes have issues, lifestyles, careers, friendshps, relationships, etc. Let's assign each one a building block. (Bear with me, ok?)
Men arrange their lives by stacking their blocks.We strive to define personal success by stacking our "blocks" vertically. If one gets pulled out, we stumble or even fall to the bottom. (Think divorce, being fired, etc.)
Women do not stack their blocks, but arrange them in a circle around them so no single one is dependent on the other for sole support,hence, husbands are a block in the ring.
Think honestly how each sex reacts when a block is removed.
Ok, I digress and apologize, especially to "the Ol' Battleaxe". http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif
BBA
10-11-2000, 04:06 PM
edit~...sometime it pays not to speak...LOL http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif
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Warthog
10-11-2000, 05:35 PM
Thanks for warning me Socalgal http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif I never thought that the way I refer to my (future) wife would in question. Guess I was wrong http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
For those of you who don't know, I am 16 and (hopefully) far from being married http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Warthog
DrCorvette
10-11-2000, 06:10 PM
Duties of THE Wife;
1. Get up before the Master, go kill a squirrel and prepare fresh biscuits and gravy then GENTLY ask if the MASTER is ready to arise.
2. To alert the MASTER when a major league football, baseball, hockey, basketball game or race is on the TV.
3. To screen his phone calls in case work is trying to call the MASTER in away from his duties keeping the couch held down.
4. She must wash and wax his pickup truck at least one time weekly, even if the next day the MASTER is going hunting or mud jumping.
5. She must keep the grass cut and the gutters clean so that the MASTER does not get dew on his shoes from overgrown grass, or dripping from overflowing gutters.
6. She must ask permission before speaking, such as raising her hand, quietly.
7. If his friends are over drinking and acting stupid, she must wear her French Maid outfit complete with garter, fishnet hose and 7" spike heels, even if her 16 hour job at the Waffle House has made her feet sore with blisters.
8. If during the drunken state, one of his friends gets a little handsy with her mini-skirt she must smile and pull away,, GENTLY .
9. If she plans to have HER friends over, she must first check the TV schedule for any sports events or War documentaries, the War footage is very important to a man.
Even if he has seen it 745 times before, the Master will act in astonishment as if it is the FIRST time viewed.
10. When viewing a fishing show, she should not spoil the program,, by telling him that the Host if about to CATCH A FISH..
11. Lastly, but most importantly, It is the responsibility for "the WIFE" to follow ten paces behind her MASTER with her head bowed as a sign of her SILENT OBEDIENCE http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
BYW, in case you didn't guess already, I'm SINGLE http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
DrVette
crockett
10-11-2000, 07:02 PM
I think this post just goes to show the differences in Men and Woman...hehe..well I think most of us guys don't give it much thought,the wife,my wife or the ball and chain http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/frown.gifhehe.Its just words to us.
But to women on the other hand the words "ball and chain " could really tick them off http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif.But really women find meaning in simple words that no guy could ever think of...I mean your getting ready to go out and the women(hehe) has tried on 50 dresses ,so she asks you do I look good in this 1 ,"the guy" says yes.Then "the women" would probably say something like "what you don't think I looked good in the 50 other dresses". http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gifso we just cant win http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/frown.gif
socalgal
10-11-2000, 09:01 PM
Toadman - I like your blocks analogy. Makes alot of sense to me.
Perhaps men tend to stumble/fall precisely because they don't have that 'circle'. Women tend to talk about their problems and get support and comfort from their relationships, friends. Men, generally speaking and it seems, don't talk or get it out.. and therefore cut themselves off from supportive relationships during times of crisis.
I think we as humans have the same basic wants and desires - to be treated with love and respect, for example - but do we succeed in giving it to those we have promised to love and cherish?
I imagine stemming from our ancient beginnings and through familial, societal and cultural events and conditionings, men and women evolve with certain predetermined instincts and then learned behavior and independent thinking is thrown into the mix. It's a paradox how unique we all are and yet how much the same, all at the same time.
Maybe if it was posed this way, (and this will be my last question/query on the matter): Husbands: your wives start to refer to you as "the husband" as opposed to "my husband". Now, does it matter to you? Does it make you feel better, worse, indifferent? Throw a different spin on things?
Oh, and Doc. Thanks for reminding us gals where our places are... <rof>
Btw, I appreciate everyone's thoughts here and thanks for replying. You've given me alot of food for thought. It's very interesting to hear how some of you think http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
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Win_98
10-11-2000, 09:17 PM
being single really suck in the long run, I had my fun for awhile but it get old and then you realize that there nothing more important then having a family of your own. when I say not fortunate I meant that I am looking for one but not so lucky like some other people are. I grew up being aloner! Oh well, I still need to work, eat, sleep and doing whatever necessarily. I been told that it will get lonely and there no one to talk to and they are right! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif LOLOLOLOLOLOL
BBA
10-11-2000, 09:32 PM
Hey man...I'm with you...but there always is someone to talk too!
You will find very special people no matter where you go. Theres even one of them right here ( I know she's reading this http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif )
Anyway, you will find someone.
socalgal
10-11-2000, 09:51 PM
Oh, just one more interesting note http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
skai made me think of this: Men don't say 'the girlfriend', they say 'my girlfriend'. So, this seems to be exclusive among marrieds.
Hmmm...
BBA
10-11-2000, 10:08 PM
No...I beg to differ...
No one remembers the "the old man" phrase of flower children?
jeana
10-11-2000, 10:22 PM
The husband just said, "No more Sysopt! It's time to go to sleep!"
Hmm, doesn't feel right. Which husband? Whose husband?
I do know that on some BBS I surfed a while ago (think it was a knitting and needlework forum, alas) women were abbreviated "my DH" for "my dear husband" or "my BH" for "my beloved husband". I think there was an ironic tone to the use of the abbreviation.
Okay, the DBH is right, so goodnight everyone!
smokin1
10-12-2000, 12:36 AM
My thoughts are probably warped...but..to refer to the other half as "the wife"..or from the other side..."Him"..is really a symptom of distaste in the relationship..some can live their lives with that..but in reality (mine)..it is a put down, and some serious thought should flow from that....if there is that much animosity that is subdued, then let it go..or live with it and be more respectful..I chose to be single without resorting to calling my X..."the wife"..
Szech
10-12-2000, 01:08 AM
I have two theories (and no, I'm not married).
1) The relationship has gone sour, and saying "the wife" gives more distance than "my wife."
2) "The wife" is short for "The wife I was telling you about." If your wife has never met this person, and you have talked a lot about your wife, then I think "the wife" is more fitting. Kinda like, "Welcome to my garage, this is the car I told you about." In this example, saying, "my car I told you about" doesn't seem to work as well.
MadMatt
10-12-2000, 01:33 AM
I use the term, but not often. I find I use it when I'm talking to poeple who have never met her - and, truth be told, generally only when talking to other men. 'My wife' sounds odd in those situations sometimes - but I'm having difficulty coming up with why this is... I think it's more of a slang thing than anything else - just a part of the vernacular. Male communication is alot about hyperbole and storytelling - I think it's just another phrase used to vary one's speech...
Or I'm in complete denial and it has some deep subconscious meaning....
skai
10-12-2000, 04:51 AM
You know come to think of it ,if I’m referring to my wife in conversation or introducing her to someone ,I say this is Kerry and assume that they know she's my wife . I can't recall using the term "the Wife" BTW we've been manacled together for 27 years LOL skai
Baldlygo
10-12-2000, 05:30 AM
It makes me cringe when my wife refers to me as my husband when we are both in conversation with someone (and not always someone new). I would prefer she said my name Paul - or even him or that or even just pointed http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif - anything better than my husband.
krusty the klown
10-12-2000, 08:21 AM
*sigh* Socalgal, if it makes you feel any better about 'the wife' / 'the husband' etc. I was usually referred to as 'he' (or 'e') or 'the boy' (nice.....) <IMG SRC="http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net4/splat.gif" border=0>
Variable
10-12-2000, 08:39 AM
Although I don't really know anything about this problem (I wish I had at least a girlfriend I could call mine <IMG SRC="http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net5/face20.gif" border=0> ) I have to tell you my 2 cents worth:
I think it's only slang if men call their wifes "THE WIFE". Maybe "THE WIFE" should be happy about being called that "name". Makes it sound like she is the only wife in the universe: "THE wife"!<IMG SRC="http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net6/nuts.gif" border=0>
I personally never heared anybody refer to HIS wife as THE wife.
A cabby picks up a nun. She gets into the cab, and the cab driver won't stop staring at her. She asks him why is he staring and he replies, "I have a question to ask you but I don't want to offend you."
She answers, "My dear son, you cannot offend me. When you're as old as I am and have been a nun a long as I have, you get a chance to see and hear just about everything. I'm sure that there's nothing you could say or ask that I would find offensive."
"Well, I've always had a fantasy to kiss a Nun." She responds, "Well, let's see what we can do about that: #1, you have to be single and #2 you must be Catholic."
The cab driver is very excited and says, "Yes, I am single and I'm Catholic too!"
The nun says, "OK, pull into the next alley." He does and the nun fulfills his fantasy. But when they get back on the road, the cab driver starts crying.
"My dear child," said the nun, "why are you crying?"
"Sister, that was absolutely fabulous, but forgive me, I have sinned. I lied, I must confess, I'm married and I'm Jewish."
The nun says, "That's OK. My name is Bruce and I'm on my way to a Halloween party."
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Warthog
10-13-2000, 01:22 AM
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif Great story Bleeding Edge!! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Doc - out of all those Miss Americas, you haven't found "the one" yet? j/k Doc http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Warthog
welsh wizard
10-13-2000, 05:21 AM
Socalgal,
I should have added that appart from a few BBS's I normally refer to "Her in Doors" as "our lass" something I picked up while working contract on the Scotish Boarder, As for the way she feels about me I still don't know why she has stayed with an old F**t like me but I am glad she has. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Also I tend to agree refering to your other half as THE lends a belief of dread and ownership, no one owns another only gains their respect and love, a big differance in the long term.
WW
stylin19
10-13-2000, 12:30 PM
i use "the wife" outside of her ear-shot.
Within her ear-shot, it's: "she who must be obeyed" http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
gjwilson
10-13-2000, 02:55 PM
Socalgal...I didn`t read EVERY reply...I don`t have the patience for it and my wife wants her computer back but I refer to my wife as "my" more as a term of inderement but then, I`ve only been married for 2 years...however, I say "THE X" when referring to my ex wife `cause I would puke if I had to say her name outloud. So speaking from both sides of the track, I think those who say "the wife" use it more as a term of possesion or encumberment. I think that`s why I did with my X.
DrCorvette
10-14-2000, 09:02 AM
While talking to a Ms America the other day,
I said to her,
" You Know Something, You look exactly like my second Wife"
she asks, "How Many times have you been married ? "
I replied
" Once "
http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gifDrVette
socalgal
10-14-2000, 07:30 PM
Thanks to everyone who responded. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
A couple of men expressed thoughts that are pretty similar to mine on this topic.. but all the more serious replies were interesting in shedding light and giving me POVs to think about as well as confirming others.
I have enjoyed reading them all and thanks again for letting me pick your brains. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
gjwilson
10-15-2000, 02:08 AM
Socalgal...I can`t help but wonder about your curiosity????? You wouldn`t by chance be considering marriage?!?!?!?! I recommend it only to the very brave or very stupid. I`m not sure which category I fall into but if you`re looking for potentials DrCorvette sounds like a good prospect....single...funny....might even have a job....worth checking out.Now there`s an idea...a Sysopt marriage, online, maybe even your own forum to discuss the pros and cons..........? What do you think?????
Well, sorry to burst your bubble, gjwilson, but it's nothing as mysterious as all that http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Really, my curiosity was stoked by the men on this board. It's really nothing more than my wondering as was asked in my first post.
Besides, I hear Doc has a big girlfriend, and I like my health and looks http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif lol
krusty the klown
10-15-2000, 03:46 AM
Ah, but the question is - would you marry someone on the understanding that 'the husband http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif ' was going to refer to you as 'the wife' ? <IMG SRC="http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net4/jump.gif" border=0>
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gjwilson
10-15-2000, 05:07 AM
AHA.......Krusty`s Kreative Smiley Faces is throwing it back at you Socalgal. How would you take being "the wife" ?
DrCorvette
10-15-2000, 05:36 AM
Deer Socal;
My gurlfuien kant shuut strate.
She haz not came home wif a squrell yet.
Her gravie is lumpie.
Her bisquits are hard and burndt.
She uses my Pick-up truck for a set of weights, (I don't like this)
She borrows my huntin boots(size 14) wifout askin.
Her moonshine tastses two much like antifreeze.
When I am watchin Oprah, she turns the TV antenne the othfer way so shes can get Mud Rastlin.
so,, http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif I'm in da marquets fur anuther womanz.
hand p.z. I doe works,, I has a jobz at the lokal Car wash,, I'm de Boss,, When Iz gets dun dryin de CArz,, I tell the oners,,
GET OTUS OF HEAR.
see ,, I boss..
btw, I don'ts dates my sistah no mo.. I swear
DrVettz
BBA
10-15-2000, 07:26 AM
ROFLOL!!
yer two funy!
c3p0-11n
10-15-2000, 09:00 AM
Well, I know one thing for sure that my wife sure likes the phrase "the wife" better than
"hey get me a drink, or hey come here!"
DrCorvette
10-15-2000, 09:59 AM
One Pal of mine from waaaay back has a phrase that always gets a DEADLY look from his wife.
It took YEARS to PERFECT.
When she asks something of him, he knows just the RIGHT TIME to do IT.
The really important part is that he's perfected the tone of voice and decibel level to an ARTFORM.
So,, when she asks something,,
He replies
"yess-dearr" in a tone resembling the last breath of a dying man.
She goes ballistic,,
We laugh http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
Sometimes ,, we RUN http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
socalgal
10-15-2000, 11:40 AM
LOL! You guys... I was afraid of this... http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Well... I would prefer to be referred to as 'my wife' rather than 'the wife' -or worse. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
And Doc, don't give up. I'm shure der's a woman out der dat can bring homez a squrell and can cook it rite. And if yer reel luckie, she'll come wit her own set of bootz and wates, too. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif rof!
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DrCorvette
10-15-2000, 05:37 PM
Here in Georgia, there are MANY languages spoken.
You good folks see me make a pitiful attempt to imitate some.
Near to my home is a little town called White.
Late one night at the Waffle House(true story) after drinking rather heavily, I'd stopped to fill up on cholesterol and preservatives.
There was a slender, dark haired KNOCK OUT who stared TOO much at ole Doc.
With few words passed, in a very crowded place, I had her phone number.
So the next day I called, ,
I was horrified at the lingo as she commented on her car being out of commission->>
"Ah axed mi daddie, Ah sed, daddie lemme borrie yer batt-tree chagah, cuz my Batt-tree iz daid in my Kah, but he sed, knaw, dat ol kar of urine haint a-worth a-burnin hup my Bat-Tree chagah "
I really felt sorry for her, but,, but,,
well, hell, I don't know what year it is in White, it seemed to be 1845, http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
I presented some feeble excuse and RAN http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
I BAD
DrVette
Barney
10-15-2000, 06:14 PM
I can imagine...
I couldn't stand to have a girlfriend with a strong accent either.I'm sorry,but I speak ABN (Algemeen Beschaafd Nederlands),that just means normal dutch - no accent and so should my future wife.I can't live with someone who's accent irritates me!And if they start calling me 'the husband',I'm gonna kill her with an axe.No maybe I wouldn't go that far just a gunshot in the head would be enough http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif .
For me it is more important that she hasn't got an accent than good looks and again,ofcourse,she would have to call me 'MY husband' when we're married. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Ronald
gjwilson
10-15-2000, 11:08 PM
Ufda Ole..Dat`s a hekufadeal wit dat accent ting der, don`tchano!Whew!! it`s one thing to talk the talk but another to try and write it...anyways..who`s to say that our elustrious administrator,Socalgal,isn`t saying "duude" or "fer sure" in the back ground and would that really change your opinion of her magnificent skills and expertise???? Well...it might be a little distracting .....
welsh wizard
10-17-2000, 04:25 AM
Well Guys when your in an arggy with the boss which of course you know you can't win, there is only one option left,
get a chair, a newspaper or mag, take it out onto the front lawn and start reading, preferably when the boss is still yelling at you, If its raining at the time it's more affective, http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
just one way of bringing sanity back to a relationship, man it's great when you make up afterwards,
WW
plucky duck
10-17-2000, 05:22 PM
LOL http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/biggrin.gif
You're a nutty bunch alright http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
I usually introduce people like this..*Hi, this is THE PLUCKY* http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif Cause if I said *Hi, this is my Plucky* People would just stare in disbelief. OMG! That's YOUR PLUCKY? It looks so much bigger than mine http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Now look what you guys did. I'm no longer MYself, I'm just a sick fat ducky http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
Don't mind me fellas, I've just a wee bit overdose of caffeine :P
Plucky
Erap!
10-18-2000, 10:59 AM
Socalgal, im guessing you're married? =) Is it a question or more of a complaint?
tonym
10-18-2000, 02:45 PM
THE WIFE is usually, in my experience, used by men that are domineering, somewhat overbearing and would drag the lady back to the cave by her hair if they could. My brother-in-law #2 is like that. His wife is an addendum, a footnote in his life. Not that he doesn't love her at some level, but HE'S THE BOSS, and don't forget it. She is THE WIFE!
Also, in a guy's-only situation, you're more "macho" if you refer to "the little woman" as THE WIFE. There's no doubt you're the boss if she's THE WIFE. Until you get home!
MY WIFE is used by guys that appreciate having a partner and a true equal in their life. Using the term my wife is a subconscious way of according respect and endearment to the other person in a man's life. My wife isn't a possessive, it's a declarative...I don't love THE WIFE, I love MY WIFE! The use of MY personalizes the phrase, you know it's sort of like the opposite of guilt by association. By declaring that she is MY WIFE, I reveal my pride in our marriage and my willingness to be associated with her.
Now, I've got to finish this off because MY WIFE is gonna kill me!!!
Hmmmmm.... im not married yet but I do use "THE GIRLFRIEND" on a couple of occasions! But it's quite contrary to tony's theory. It's more of fear! hahahaha! Somthing like, "I don't think i can go, THE GIRLFRIEND might kill me!" somthing lyk thatttt!!! =p How do u make the smileyfaceeeeeee???