I have decided to ramble. I had my chance...

[narayan]

Sorry bout the OT, but here it is. When I was 18, I met this girl. She was perfect in every way. Great body, attitude, family, she would make the perfect girl for anyone. I dated her for a few months. I took some bad advise and told her something I wish I would not have. Over the years, I had seen her here and there, but never went out on a date or anything. One day she said she was engaged to this guy... I thought I was out of luck forever. Monday, I saw her again, as beautiful as ever. She told me where she worked, I went there today to see her and her new fiancee! She married that one jerk, then divorced him. I should have stayed in touch and been ready in line when her divorce was final, but I had given up hope. Sorry to ramble, but, well, you know... http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/frown.gif


If anyone doesn't want to see this, I will delete it. I know it's pathetic!!! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif

[This message has been edited by narayan (edited 05-25-2000).]

[shadow]

It sounds tough, sorry about that. Nothing tougher than love in this ol world but dont let it get you down, it wasnt meant to be.

That recent divorce she had could've easily been you. If you were honest about something way back when and that scared her off then a life with her may be difficult since the basis of a good marriage is honesty and trust. The right one will come along, don't dwell on the past.

I've been married 18 years to a wonderful woman and we know everything about each other and accept the good with the bad. I have the good, she has the bad http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif
I am such an accepting and giving kinda guy http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif

Hang in there, the "one" is out there waitin for you.

[pickel]

www.robertfrost.org/poem2.html (http://www.robertfrost.org/poem2.html)
Narayan: scrool down to " The road not taken"
Been there many times myself....

the pickel

[chipbgt]

If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you...it's yours. If it doesn't...hunt it down and kill it.

Just kidding. Just remember love is never in a hurry. If you ever feel like the need to be with someone is a "now or never" situation, then its probably not love.

And about the truth telling thing...no matter what it was, if it was the truth, it was he right thing to tell. Better to know up front than later on when there is more at stake (a marriage, children)

[Dave_H]

If it was ment to be, it would have been.
The person of your dreams is out there for you, sometimes it takes a while to find her.
Took me 34 years to find mine, but it was worth the wait.
Hang in there buddy
Dave

[zskillz]

man... i know exactly what u mean.
i dated a girl for a little less than 2 yrs and was totally in love with her, but things didn't work out for various reasons...
i stayed in touch with her until this semester, but I got tired of aspects of the relationship and totally cut her off...
now I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do cause i really do miss her even though i know that when she's around i'm not as happy of a person. i've been seeing lots of other people since we broke up, but not one of them has even been able to hold my attention, and I feel like a jerk for even wasting their time when i know that i'm not interested...
sheesh, girls can really wear a guy down sometimes
c'est la vie bro... i guess things well work out in the end
-Z

[tonym]

[Advice hat on]

narayan,

I notice that in your list of attributes that "Great body" came in first. Any red-blooded male with a teaspoonful of testosterone would THINK this as a instinctual response, HOWEVER if you're looking for a mate, this is a lesser consideration (maybe number two or three!!) to the remainder of qualifications in your list.

My friend, I beleieve you're confusing INFATUATION with LOVE! I know plenty of women that are 10's physically, but I'd no more marry them (or socialize with them) as I would a cobra!

If this woman means something to you and you pine for her companionship, it should have come through loud and clear (in your post) that "she really understood me" or "we love to do the same things" or "I can't spend enough time with her", etc. But, c'est dommage, it did not!

What's done is done...you should learn from the past but don't live there! It just wasn't meant to be!! I'm sure the "plenty fish in the sea" axiom will work for you.

And one other thing...if you had been important to HER, I think she would have tried to give you a call or get in contact with you when she jettisoned hubby #1. No calls, huh?? Are you supposed to be clairvoyant??

Who knows? You might even find someone BETTER for you!!

[Advice hat off]

Tony

[narayan]

Wow, thanks for all the responses. The thing that I told her (on advice of a "friend"), was to stop communicating with her ex-boyfriend. Deep down, I knew this was wrong, but I blindly followed advise. She was the sweetheart type who would remain friends after a relationship, I totally trusted her, but a little jealous. Chipbgt LOL. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif Tonym, Great Body was 1st, BECAUSE IT IS KILLER! BTW, found out the knot will be tied in October. There's still time! Pickel, Great poem. http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif

[This message has been edited by narayan (edited 05-26-2000).]