marrying high-school sweethearts

[ablang]

Does anyone have any opinions on marrying high-school sweethearts? Why or why not do it?

[Amarok]

The one thing I will say on this subject is that make sure that you have at least gone out seriously with others as well. Do not jump head long into something that could cause you misery for the rest of your life.

You will have to be the one to decide what is right for you. No one else will be able to make up your mind for you. All I would suggest is that you think both with your head and with your heart for a while before you do make a decision.

Hope that helps.

Amarok

[chipbgt]

My parents were high school sweethearts and have been married for 30 some years. I just see it as finding your true love earlier on then most. I wouldnt suggest getting married while IN high school though http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif

[C5John]

I did, and have never been sorry.
It eliminates the baggage that sometimes goes along with other relationships that one of the parties might have had prior to the marriage. The risk is the later reflections of "did I miss something?". I have never experienced that, but times were different when I was in high school. I also would not reccommend getting married in high school. I waited until after college to tie knot.
Engagement was two years.

Good Luck
C5John

[Roraycr]

Married my high school sweetheart 41 years ago and she's still with me(although sometimes I think she must have a very strong stomach)!

[Ziz]

Marriage is like skydiving. You can practice all you want on the ground where it's safe, but it isn't until you jump from 10,000 feet that you can truly determine whether you're f**ked or not.

- Dennis Miller, The Rants

[wyvrn]

This all of course depends upon the person. I am marrying my high-school sweetheart in one month, and I could not be happier. We have enjoyed a great relationship and are looking forward to soon starting a family. If you feel that this person is right for you, then go for it. But I also agree marrying the very first person you date can be risky because you have nothing to compare it to. That is why I am not an advocate of parents who do not let their kids date in high school, but that is another thread (my fiance would disagree here). If you were to feel at any time uncomfortable during the engagement, then break it off and date other people. It is risky, but you may learn a lot about yourself and your significant other, enough to know what the right choice is.

Just me two pesos.

[1159creampuff]

I broke up with my High School Sweet Heart to "tast try". Nothing has been right since.
I miss you Taneeka, Damion.

[tonym]

I married my high school sweetheart 17+ years ago and have no regrets.

Love isn't like shoes...you don't have to try on several before you find a pair that fits. Sometimes you just know the first time!

Barry White said it best:

"...She's my first, my last, MY EVERYTHING!!!!..."


Tony

[Bear]

I married my high school sweetheart the summer after my junior year in high school.
That was 31 years ago and we're still goin strong. No regrets.

[welsh wizard]

Makes no differance if its your High school sweetheart or not, if it's the right one, then it's the right one.
a couple of tips from a three times down the M trail.
1 Do you like her( this is by far the most important one)
2 do you like her mother ( what you see is what you have in your old age)
3 if you decide on her stick with her, and let no family member interfer with the way you are with her.
WW

[CMonster]

Great Idea! I'm 40, and if I wasn't married already I would consider any "high school sweatheart" that came along!

[InsaneMorphius]

I did, and weve been married for 13 years already. **** I'm gettin old http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif

Morphius

[Josh42]

I'm a freshman in college and I'm still dating my high school sweetheart. One of the things that I really appreciate now that I have her is that I have all this extra time to know her and see her in her younger life. I feel really lucky and honored to be able to go through it with her! I don't know if I'll end up marrying her, but I would sure like to!
- Josh

[welsh wizard]

Josh there is one sure fire way of knowing, Ask her! http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif
WW

[shadow]

I met my wife when she was 16 and I was 18.
I was done high school so not sure if that qualifies as high school sweethearts.

We became best friends, went out for 5 years, got married, waited another 5 years before having kids. Now we have been married for 18 years, have 3 kids and have built a nice family/home. We're still best friends and I know I am very lucky. To me she keeps getting better, I now have this thing for 40ish women http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/smile.gif

Communication and honesty are necessary for a lasting relationship. And ya gotta like each other too http://sysopt.earthweb.com/forum/wink.gif

[ablang]

One of the reasons I ask this guys, is because I was thinking back to how I was so lucky I didn't get involved in high school, because I then didn't have the emotional maturity to get involved. I would've made a lot of mistakes if I had started then, and i was wondering if any of you did.

Either marrying high-school sweethearts is a great idea, or those who can attest to it not being a good idea made a grave mistake and wouldn't want to show it to the world.