When a moderator comments on a personal level about ones relationship

[clough]

It's time to find a new a new place to hang out.Socalgal I didn't get to read your email I deleted it but I promise you "I'll never post here again."

[daveleau]

not to stir the pot but she apologized. I don;t think she meant any harm. she was just kind of ticked because of the language. If she let that go on it could (and prob. would) mean her job. So in essence you attacked her employment standing and she lashed back. it may not have been appropriate but she apologized. hope things turn out for the best.

[Roy]

Flames burn out.

[SysOpt]

Clough: Your posts to the "quotes" thread were inappropriate to say the least, and offensive to women, who, in case you haven't noticed, do make up a part of this site's demographic. Part of the reason why they probably don't constitute a larger part of SysOpt's audience is due to comments like yours. However, rather than simply removing the posts, Socalgal let them affect her personally and responded accordingly, but she later realized her mistake and apologized to you.

Scott

[This message has been edited by SysOpt (edited 10-01-99).]

[welsh wizard]

Maybe it's time to sit down and make a cup of tea, or have a cool drink, A lot of us out there have been through the S**t of a bad M.B.U. and remember we got a little crazy then, And said things that later wish we hadn't. the hardest thing to do is take five before firing off. I didn't see post concerned but this is a mixed board and all help to make it a great place to be.

[jeana]

Prob'ly shouldn't stick my oar in, but here goes...

It'll be too bad if you leave the site feeling like you're getting grief online as well as off. When you posted to the "Quotes" and the "how are you" threads, it just sounded like some kid being crude for the heck of it... some kid who wasn't even married, let alone having marital trouble.

I don't think anybody would have harshed on you if they had known that you really were hitting hard times. Kind of like getting a lot of prank rings on the doorbell, and then when some victim from a car wreck staggers up the steps and pounds on the door, you keep the door bolted and tell them to scram.

[DavidX]

Going through a "bad patch" in life cannot be seen as a legitimate excuse for being offensive, whether by bad language or by sexist comments, on a public BBS. A generation ago something called "self-control" was considered an essential quality. I tend to believe that it still should be.

I have always regarded the SysOpt BBS as first and foremost a place to discuss computers and, occasionally, other events of the day, a friendly place to exchange ideas and opinions. To use it as a place to post offensive remarks, simply as a means of venting one's personal frustrations at home, is not only inappropriate but also selfish and contemptuous of the feelings of fellow members.

Going through a marriage break-up, traumatic as it may be, is NOT any reason to excuse bad and thoughtless posts. There is one member here who recently discovered that his wife has cancer. Other members have reported the loss of dear friends. This past year has not been a bed of roses for me personally either. To cite marital trouble as an excuse for poor behavior seems embarrassingly trite by comparison.

Socalgal was right to be offended. If the instigator of this current thread cannot be mature and responsible enough to unconditionally accept that he was in the wrong, then his future absence from this BBS is to be welcomed rather than regretted.

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[chuckiechan]

Clough, at least here you can change your name and be "reborn". We all make mistakes- my ex-wives are always the first to throw blame my way..

So, get re-born (or spawn, if you prefer), break out of your new egg, be a junior member again and chill out.

PS: read what you type before you hit submit, just in case you want to turn down the flames..

See you around, Junior!!