Anger Managment

[chriswhitelaw]

Now you have to picture this before passing judgment. This morning I was late getting up for work. Got outta bed and did my usual morning stuff when all of the sudden I hear this pounding noise coming from the kids bedroom, it's my wife trying to open the sliding closet doors and one of them get's off track and get's stuck. Well I pay it no attention cause I don't have time to fool around with it being late for work already. So I go into the bathroom and as I am getting ready to close the door she slam's the door back open and say's are you going to help me or not, my reply is "I'll deal with it when I get home just leave it" so she storms out of the bathroom and I thought that was it. I was just kidding myself to think that, she had taken the car key s and hid them so I couldn't leave. To my reply now I am furious beyond all belief I kept telling her to give me the keys to her reply she said take your car, knowing full well my car is not in the best shape right now and needs to be fixed. So I threw the phone tipped over a table and kept yelling at her "give me the keys" so at this point I am more then 20 mins. late for work and I ended up taking my car anyway cause I got tired of arguing with her. Now who was wrong here me or her? :mad:

[j.m@talk]

Who cares just shrug it off........... That was this morning & this is now...... Lifes too short :-@

[porsch1909]

I think You are wrong. i mean how long would the cupboard have taken to fix. and if it made the love of your life happy you shouldve just done it and been a bit late. If you fixed the cupboard you wouldve been earlier than if you didnt id imagine.

[Billforce]

Neither one of you is RIGHT. True!, she is being unreasonable and SHE knows it. You in turn were sparked off so you retaliated in an aggressive manner.

Women, including mine tend to be insistant...............mine is calling me to eat and won't accept I'll be there when I am dam ready!
They like to push the envelope so you just grin and bear it. If you retaliate, then it blows up into a giant war of wills.

[Bovon]

The root of the problem is well beyond this morning...yesterday or even last week. You two need a vacation away from each other.

[porsch1909]

Originally posted by Bovon
The root of the problem is well beyond this morning...yesterday or even last week. You two need a vacation away from each other.


I think that is a bit extreme. Correct me if im wrong but couples alway have little fights. and most couple who 'take some time apart' dont really get together again.

[ukulele]

Never argue with a woman, especially if they cook your food and never let your anger turn to violence. As soon as you do that the whole family will fear you. Fear can turn love to hate faster then an affair with another woman. My parents used to have horrible fights for stupid things like that and I was terrified when they did. If for no other reason cool your jets for the children's sake and remember you are a man. Take time to be a caring father first. Call your boss and explain that you have a family matter to deal with. When your wife realizes what a problem she created it won't happen again. If that means being late for work and you get fired, then your boss is the jerk, not your wife. It's important to remember that when people fight for silly reasons, then it is just an excuse for a more vexing problem in their minds. Get your car fixed ASAP.

[mireland]

one word and it's spelled D-I-V-O-R-C-E!:(

[DozerLYP]

Originally posted by mireland
one word and it's spelled D-I-V-O-R-C-E!:(

witch bring you to your F-R-E-E-D-O-M...:D

[chriswhitelaw]

sometimes I don't know what to do. one thing I have never done in the 9 years we've been married is hit her, I don't believe in it and I sure as heck don't condon it. it was over silly stuff really but people here at work are saying she was being childish for hiding the keys. I'll admit one thing she's really knows how to push my buttons.

[bassman]

Easier said than done, but don't let her push them. It takes a load of self-control, but when you're about to explode you should try to think "Wait a second; what if that's precisely what she wants me to do? How'd it work if I do exactly the opposite?". I think all reason will come to you if you do so...
I agree that her attitude was wrong and yours was right (assuming you couldn't be late or call in to warn) up to the point you engaged in a violent behaviour (a terrible example for your kids) - but an atittude like her's (and yours too), IMO, has to come from somewhere, you don't just make such a scene for a simple thing like that...I'd try to figure out the root of the problem and think of this as a repercussion for not doing it before.

[j.m@talk]

err

;)

[mireland]

Originally posted by j.m@talk
err

;)


:rolleyes:

[ukulele]

Divorce is the lamest suggestion yet, but typical of new age liberal thinking. It does not bring freedom unless you want to abandon the children and run away and hide for the rest of your life. Did you ever hear of alimony? Divorce is for whimps and loosers who can't keep commitments. There is something to be said for compatability though. I lived with several women for an extended length of time and only once it was with a woman who loved to argue and she was just plain sick in the head. I finally got married at the age of 43 and have never had more then a minor arguement with my wife. The key is to be there when she needs you. I would drop anything in a second to help her with some annoying task. She will do the same for me.

If you love your wife and are compatable then go the extra yard and let her know when ever you can. You are not married to your job.

[mireland]

this is why I'm all against marriage..if I were God (or bush:rolleyes: ) i'd ban it...

[j.m@talk]

I got nuttin gainst marriage ......... Its just that Women hate me :(

[mireland]

Originally posted by j.m@talk
I got nuttin gainst marriage ......... Its just that Women hate me :(


well, the good clean ones don't like me, that's why I hang out with skanks..:eek:

[j.m@talk]

Originally posted by mireland
well, the good clean ones don't like me, that's why I hang out with skanks..:eek:

:cool:

[ukulele]

Originally posted by mireland
this is why I'm all against marriage..if I were God (or bush:rolleyes: ) i'd ban it...

Lonely gets old too. I've been there, done that. ;)

[PacNW CE]

Originally posted by Billforce
Neither one of you is RIGHT. True!, she is being unreasonable and SHE knows it. You in turn were sparked off so you retaliated in an aggressive manner.

Women, including mine tend to be insistant...............mine is calling me to eat and won't accept I'll be there when I am dam ready!
They like to push the envelope so you just grin and bear it. If you retaliate, then it blows up into a giant war of wills.

Bill, hell hath frozen over. We agree. This incident sounds like something my wife would pull. I firmly believe that it is your responsibility as a Husband and Father to be bigger than the situation when it comes to what I like to call hormonal female actions.

I can relate to losing it too. It has taken me years to learn to ignore the insanty that periodically (pun intended) seems to creep into my wifes mind.

[ukulele]

Originally posted by mireland
well, the good clean ones don't like me, that's why I hang out with skanks..:eek:

Did it ever occur to you that the reason they don't want to hang out with you is because they don't want to end up in the land of the skanks too? :p

[porsch1909]

Is there really anything called a happily married couple??

[mireland]

Originally posted by ukulele
Did it ever occur to you that the reason they don't want to hang out with you is because they don't want to end up in the land of the skanks too? :p


well, I'm trying to change my ways..but you know, it's hard to change...:rolleyes:

[ukulele]

Originally posted by porsch1909
Is there really anything called a happily married couple??

Only if you don't marry an American. ;)

[j.m@talk]

Originally posted by ukulele
Only if you don't marry an American. ;)

I thought you had to be the same sex to get married in Yank Land ;)

[mireland]

Originally posted by j.m@talk
I thought you had to be the same sex to get married in Yank Land ;)

well, since bush is a gay hater apparently not...:rolleyes:

[j.m@talk]

Yall need some churchin' up if ya ask me :t

[mireland]

Originally posted by j.m@talk
Yall need some churchin' up if ya ask me :t

yea..at the first baptist bar and grill...:D

[j.m@talk]

Originally posted by mireland
yea..at the first baptist bar and grill...:D

Now ya talkin honkey :p

[Billforce]

Originally posted by mireland
well, the good clean ones don't like me, that's why I hang out with skanks..:eek:

Maybe the old axiom of : You can't go trout fishing in a herring barrel fits?

[mireland]

Originally posted by Billforce
Maybe the old axiom of : You can't go trout fishing in a herring barrel fits?


well...got take what I can get...:(

[Bovon]

Originally posted by mireland
Godda** religion..that's why I hate it...:mad:

..for the record I am NOT religous and don't really give a **** about god or whether he exists or not....

...this is why I'm all against marriage..if I were God.....

Anybody for waffles today?

[mireland]

Originally posted by Bovon
Anybody for waffles today?


well sometimes I just get so mad...:rolleyes:

[chriswhitelaw]

I walked through the door tonight with much hasitation to my surprise I get a kiss and a hug like nothing ever happened.

WOMEN I WILL NEVER FIGURE THEM OUT! :confused:

[mireland]

Originally posted by chriswhitelaw
I walked through the door tonight with much hasitation to my surprise I get a kiss and a hug like nothing ever happened.

WOMEN I WILL NEVER FIGURE THEM OUT! :confused:

well then, just ignore my divorce comment....




here's hoping you get some wild sex...:x

[j.m@talk]

There goes another light fitting ................:eek:

Could be groovy if ya gotta rotating fan above ya bed....... Stairway...... Kitchen....... Closet ..... tho :p

[porsch1909]

Originally posted by chriswhitelaw
I walked through the door tonight with much hasitation to my surprise I get a kiss and a hug like nothing ever happened.

WOMEN I WILL NEVER FIGURE THEM OUT! :confused:

Thats the Spirit!! Ignore a problem and it will surely go away!

[zybch]

Originally posted by chriswhitelaw
I walked through the door tonight with much hasitation to my surprise I get a kiss and a hug like nothing ever happened.

WOMEN I WILL NEVER FIGURE THEM OUT! :confused:

Men enter marriage believing their woman will never change.
Women enter a marraige believing that they can change their man.

Both are wrong.

[Rabbitrunner51]

Myself..I am not married ..and never have been..but from what I have witnessed of other couples marriage these just happen.
its a part of life..and there is no way to getting around it...

what you did or did not do seems reasonable..aas you areobviously the bread winner.

Woman are just funny animals..their reason does not always make alot of sense. They are emotional creatures by nature.

personally, I think she was acting a little self centered here..but again its no matter.

Make up and Love when its time to love and fight when its time to fight....

As a rule i myself do not like confrontations very much ...but do enjoy debating and putting my opinions forth. ( a true Saggiitarius nature)

The fact htat you even took the time to write about this to others shows me you love your wife very much..and that is always a good thing...

Carry on and be happy

[DozerLYP]

Originally posted by mireland
well, since bush is a gay hater apparently not...:rolleyes:

i don't know about that. i found this clip of Him (http://photos.speedo.ca/dirtbag/bushslap), now you judge for yourself...:eek:

[ukulele]

Originally posted by DozerLYP
i don't know about that. i found this clip of Him (http://photos.speedo.ca/dirtbag/bushslap), now you judge for yourself...:eek:

Get your mind out of the gutter trash breath.

[Bovon]

Originally posted by chriswhitelaw
I walked through the door tonight with much hasitation to my surprise I get a kiss and a hug like nothing ever happened.

WOMEN I WILL NEVER FIGURE THEM OUT! :confused: Yep..now you are learning. Other women never figure out their female friend/enemies etc.

I suspect this began because of a buildup of several things over time, unless your wife is given to frustration over small...daily things. Most women will hold back and say nothing about what's happening in their lives until they have a gut full, then they explode over seemingly nothing, when it actually is an accumulation of many things.

Women have certain times of any month that affects them a lot, and in different ways. They can't explain it, nor should they try. Those around them must try to recognize the onset of this time period and realize that she will need extra comfort and soothing. A little pat and a "Love you" goes miles and miles at this time. This was probably what she was looking for when she blew her gasket..she didn't absolutely need you to help her..it was your non attention to her when she desperately needed it that pushed her over the edge.

You think this has been a bad time!!.. just wait until she goes through menopause...if you have not developed a strong relationship by then, it will be bye bye time.


Originally posted by zybch
Men enter marriage believing their woman will never change.
Women enter a marraige believing that they can change their man.

Both are wrong. You have a good insight into such as this...how many time did you say you had married?

There is something that has bothered me about cohabitation between a man and a woman. Seems like the general thought is, if you can live together awhile, you will find out how compatible you are with each other.

I read somewhere a few months ago that the time necessary to live together and learn all there is to know about each other when they are trying to always be on their best terms with each other would take about 150 years.

No one has yet been able to determine why a woman would want to change the man in her life to something else. Obviously, she does not know herself. Why change the things she initially found to her liking to something she "thinks" she will want. (or her mother/father would prefer).

[PacNW CE]

Originally posted by zybch
Men enter marriage believing their woman will never change.
Women enter a marraige believing that they can change their man.

Both are wrong.

Truer words have never been spoken. :t

True love is when you get past that point and respect your spouse for their individuality. My wife has been in Mexico with her girlfriends for the last 2 weeks. Every time she contacts me, she misses me more and more. If she spends a month straight with me, I will be a lazy ******* all over again. That's life...

[Baddog]

Originally posted by porsch1909
Is there really anything called a happily married couple??

My wife and I have been happily married for 8 years......we still party and play together (Gets to be alot of fun:D )


PS: Your fists marriage gives you something to do until the right woman comes along.:D

[werz]

Originally posted by mireland
well, the good clean ones don't like me, that's why I hang out with skanks..:eek:
Hang labels like that on women and its no surprising you have to pay for their company.

[mireland]

Originally posted by werz
Hang labels like that on women and its no surprising you have to pay for their company.

GodD@*n man..I was just kidding...:rolleyes:


but I'll still take what I can get...:D

[ukulele]

Originally posted by mireland
GodD@*n man..I was just kidding...:rolleyes:


but I'll still take what I can get...:D

Yeah they get better lookin' and smell better too after last call. :D